Get To Know Me
“You keep going unless your head is physically hanging off”
I am someone who has always lived in intensity. SURVIVAL mode engaged. All or nothing.
Growing up with busy musician parents, one of the greatest gifts they gave me was a strong work ethic. Give me a task, and I won’t procrastinate. This was a blessing during the era of “hustle culture” as I was always ready for any challenge. However, I often took on more than necessary. Why? Just to fill my time, I guess. We have to test our limits somehow!
My parents also encouraged my curiosity. Whatever interest I wanted to pursue, they found a way to support me. I love my parents.
I also love the gym, animals, cooking, writing, nature, dancing, singing, reading, health, fitness, wellness, the arts, the sea, surfing, yoga, socializing, taking naps and eating snacks - lots of snacks.
Anyone who knows me, isn't surprised when I start a new project. So many interests and passions to pursue, will I have enough time?
"Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren't even there."
Like many, I tend to overthink everything. I believe there’s a healthy level of contemplation before it tips into neuroticism. There's a time for the mind and a time for the heart, but bringing them into balance is often more difficult than we would expect. I’ve learnt to dwell less on suffering; but by retelling our stories, we can uncover the lessons hidden within them. The beauty of hindsight.
In my teens and early twenties, I embodied my masculine energy—getting things done, bulldozing my way through any challenges. As women, we often do this to protect ourselves. We can definitely be our own saviors, but it can definitely be exhausting to do it on our own.
I was fortunate to have resources, but figuring out how to use them became its own struggle. Having plenty of ambition whilst lacking in direction, led to intense anxiety and a deep-rooted feeling that something was missing.
I’ve always been a performer; it’s in my blood. However, the environments I worked in made this career unsustainable. Between seasons, I explored other options. Then, a couple of years ago, I FOUND IT! The excitement, the novelty—“This is so in alignment; there’s no way this won’t work!”, I joined a band and finally felt a sense of community and belonging, safe in a space that valued my talent. Then, shortly after, I was diagnosed with vocal nodules. Soon after that, I faced digestive issues, followed by a car accident that left me in debt and without transportation. I was also trying to create independence, paying high rent for my apartment and self-employment taxes. It was all so overwhelming.
"Your dharma is the path that leads to your highest potential."
I'll paraphrase something Sahara Rose said in a podcast, “When we take an exit from our life's highway, the universe sends us signs. If you ignore the first sign, you’ll get a pinch; if you still ignore it, you’ll get a punch; and then comes the collision.” You can stay in the wreckage or turn around and figure out how you got lost in the first place. I felt I had no choice but to face what I had been avoiding. And so began the journey back to my Self.
During this time, I met my amazing partner. After a year of navigating our insecurities, we became best friends. We mirror each other, helping one another see ourselves more clearly. Our relationship is beautiful, built on a willingness to work through our triggers and traumas. He is my guide, my coach, my guru, he supports me and honors every aspect of who I am. That’s what it means to embody the divine masculine.
During turbulent times, we often experience the most growth. I’m known for having frequent meltdowns, suffering over seemingly anything I feel is out of my control. I can’t stand dissonance or feeling lost. During my journey I discovered that unused creative energy transforms into anxiety—and I have plenty of that. I spent my life trying to plaster over the cracks, but they always came back deeper. In seeking direction, I began to examine every aspect of my life and my shadow, using a metaphorical screwdriver to tighten the loose screws that kept my foundation unstable. I explored mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health, learning to live with less intensity and more moderation.
I’ve collected many tools for this transformation along the way. Despite the challenges, and subsequent rapture I’ve experienced, I am now stronger and more authentically myself than ever. I’ll always be building the house, but my foundations are now sturdier after the storm.
In Yoga I’ve found profound wisdom. Its philosophy teaches us to manage our neuroses by understanding the systems we’re part of and the beliefs that shape us.
This is why I started TULĀ. I wanted to create a space for others who are struggling on their journey, to let them know they are not alone. There are tools available; it’s just about finding the right ones for your needs. I’ve formulated a system that examines different aspects of our lives closely, helping us release limiting beliefs and stories that keep us stuck. Everyone deserves a better life. Yet, we’ve been conditioned to settle, giving our power away to industries that don’t have our best interests at heart. This devastates me. No one can know you as well as you can know yourself. Sometimes, we just need help or someone to hold space for us in our authenticity and vulnerability. You wouldn't be reading this unless you too have been called to reclaim your power.
I would be honored to hold your hand along the way.
Sending love,
Dani x
